How to control your anger!

How to control your anger!

Being angry is very common issue we face at different occasions. We have a lot of difficulties getting along with others. We have experienced times when people you know well drive you up the wall and met people from time to time whom, for one reason or another, you just do not like.

Can you remember times when your brother or sister seemed especially bossy, your teacher was cross with you of no reason at all, or a parent was being unnecessarily critical of something you had done?

Well, we meet these sorts of situations all the time; life sometimes seems as if it is just a series of problems and arguments. For most of you, parents are probably the most frequent reason for such reasons. But every young person has difficulties with teachers, arguments with their, friends and rows with uncles near you.

What is the usual reaction when this sort of thing happens?

Get angry, of course!

Why we get angry?

We tend to think that the person involved was just in a bad mood or that they are incapable of seeing our point of view. In other words, when people do get on our nerves, we usually conclude that they are to blame.

Some people would say that teenagers spend most of their time being angry! After all, anger is most commonly caused by frustration, and young people do feel frustrated.

It is hard when want so much to be grown-up, to be able to make decisions, yet have to ask your parents’ permission. It is difficult having to wait for things, being continually held back by adult caution when you are sure you are ready and able to handle new experiences. It is frustrating to be treated as child when you know you are becoming an adult. It is hard to have restrictions placed in your way when you know you are capable and responsible, and it is hard to have adults vary so much in what they expect of you and in what they will allow you to do.

How to deal with these frustrations!

Get angry! This is justifiable anger, and a small amount of anger can be a good thing. Anger can bring problems out into the open and it can help to get things done. Anger about unfairness in society, for example, is what drives many politicians. Anger about selfishness, greed or unfair treatment can help to bring about change and to put things right.

Is it all right to get angry a little?

Well, feeling good is natural and essential. The thing that is probably more likely than anything else to make us feel good is happy, caring relationship with another person. This is the sort of relationship that many of us will have had with our parents when we were younger but which, for variety of reasons, does not happen with them when we are teenager.  That is why you look around for someone outside the family to get close to, someone who will share things with you, care for you, and make you feel good.

Simple ways to control your anger!

•       Take a time out.
•      Do some exercise.
•       Get some help from others.
•       Express your problem to your close ones.